No doubt, having a little girl is one of life’s precious moments, especially when you are the father.
Of course, I am certainly not knocking having a son in any way shape or form, after all, I have an eight-month-old and boy and he is precious beyond belief.
That said, if you are a father who has a little princess of your own, you probably already know that there are special nuances only a father and daughter usually enjoy.
For starters, if your daughter is already a few years old she might dress up for you and pretend that it’s date night. Moreover, your little princess might also enjoy painting your fingers and toes as well.
Which brings me to the point – and the entire premise of this post – how to talk to your daughter about her period.
Before we begin, however, it’s important to keep in mind that this is an incredibly sensitive topic for your little girl, and having a conversation about her menstruation should be taken seriously and with the utmost sensitivity.
This moment is perhaps the single most important time in a little girl’s life, it symbolizes fertility and the transition of a girl into womanhood. Moreover, this moment also symbolizes hormones and a psychological state that, during that time, is in a confused and fragile state.
Before we dive into some proven methods to address the issue, let’s talk about some don’ts:Don’t be cheesy about the whole thing, and what I mean by that is don’t be one of those dads that throw a menstruation party and invite everyone she knows like her classmates, or the entire neighborhood (unbelievable, but some dads actually have done that).
Believe it or not, just because you may feel excited for your little girl, that does not mean that she feels the same way, and most girls prefer to remain semi-private about the whole ordeal
Don’t make light of the situation by making crude jokes in an attempt to lighten the situation. Jokes like
I hope you stop bleeding”
Are crude, extremely disrespectful and hurtful to say the least.
Do not dismiss any concerns your daughter may be expressing, and certainly don’t make light of such concerns. Remember: a little girl’s perception of the world and herself is vastly different from yours, so go the extra mile and respect her potentially fragile state of mind.
Now that we got some of the negatives out of the way, let’s discuss some strategies that actually work in making your little princess feel safe and empowered.
Always Be Proactive:
Always be proactive and address the topic well in advance. You wouldn’t believe how many dads (and moms too) wait until the last minute – or worse after she had her menstruation – to address the topic.
By addressing the topic well in advance, you afford her the opportunity to mentally prepare for that big day, and maybe even spark the idea for her to also discuss it with her friends as well. Sometimes, the transition into womanhood is best appreciated if she has a close circle of friends she can lean on.
Prepare Her In Advance:
Let your daughter know that it’s perfectly natural to experience cramps, headaches and other physiological distress. Moreover, let her know that these symptoms can also manifest itself into headaches as well.
Typically, her first period with last from two to seven days and it may be very light, perhaps just spots of blood. It’s also advisable to explain to her that her mood may also be affected as well.
Moods such as depression and irritability are common symptoms, and as such should be addressed as something that is very common.
Menstruation Is A Sign Of Maturity:
Last but certainly not least, explain to your little girl that her menstruation is a sign of maturity, and reiterate that all healthy women received their menstruation every month and that it’s a perfectly normal sign of healthy aging. moreover, reiterate that this is graduation into Womanhood and her ability to conceive children in the future.
Many fathers have reported success in making a period kit. Way too many girls fear – and with good reason – that they will get their first period during school, or when they’re inconveniently away from home and unable to deal with the situation.
Don’t Be Afraid To Go The Extra Mile:
My suggestion is to go the extra mile and proactively help your little girl feel prepared, buy a small, discreet pouch and stock it with a couple of teen-size sanitary pads (you can also include a fresh set of underwear).
It’s best to make sure you let your little girl know that she should keep the kit with her at all times, that way she will feel prepared.
Mishaps Are Bound to happen, so It Is No Big Deal.
Under normal circumstances, I would wholeheartedly agree with you. That said, we are talking about a little girl’s first period so it will be a HUGE deal to her.
What I did was an attempt to be proactive, and one day I took my daughter out to celebrate her transition into womanhood. Naturally, I did have this conversation with her and we had a wonderful bonding moment together, and that moment was simply priceless.
Don’t Be Afraid To Ask For Help:
One thing I would suggest for any father preparing for this big moment is to help your little girl pick an adult who she trusts unconditionally. By choosing an adult she can confide in will do wonders for her self esteem.
When your little girl is away from home she can ask for help. This adult could be a coach, counselor, friend’s parent or a teacher. It really makes no difference as long as she – and you too – trust this person to do the right thing by your daughter.
After all, figuring out how to talk to your daughter about her period is certainly no easy way to approach, but hopefully, some of my tips and strategies will go a long way in helping you discuss this very sensitive topic.
If you would like to leave a comment, or you would like to add to the article with some personal suggestions and experiences that would be great.