Baby showers are a wonderful thing. Not only is it the perfect time for women to get together and share the wonderful birth of a new life into the world, but baby showers are also meant to pay homage by wonderful gifts for baby as well.
Do dads attend baby showers?
Traditionally, baby showers are women-only special occasions that are celebrated by invite only. Customarily, men play an active role in the event by making an appearance half hour before the event is over to pay respect and help transport the gifts from the event home.
Although this event is deeply rooted in tradition, younger families are starting to ignore the deep-seated tradition by not only allowing men to attend but making the event a less formal gathering to one that includes both men and women equally.
In fact, in this age of change and equality, it’s becoming less and less formal and more like a party where anyone who is close to the couple may attend.
For instance, LGBT couples and other folks who embrace the alternative lifestyle may define their own rules when it comes to baby showers. This is especially true where adoption is becoming more and more prevalent.
The Historical Significance Of A Baby Shower:
The baby shower is a family’s first chance to gather folks together to help play a part in their child’s experience. People involved with the family – the ones who are active participants with the family and are generally close with them use the opportunity of a baby shower to give gifts showing their love for the family.
It doesn’t matter which part of the world one lives in or what culture is involved, a baby shower remains universal in its significance as the spirit of the event remains the same.
Alternatively, the event expresses a “first showing” of the new infant to family and circle of close friends, Despite cultural differences, however, the baby shower is usually held before the birth of the baby/
What kind of differences you may ask?
In Bangladesh, for example, baby showers are held during the 7th month of pregnancy. After this, the woman lives in her father’s home instead of her husband’s until the birth of the baby.
And in Iran, the baby shower is held in the first trimester where close friends and family gather to partake gift-giving and celebration.
The Chinese, however, hold the baby shower manyue (满月) one month after the baby is born, which is in direct conflict of celebrating and welcoming a new life into the world before birth.
Co-Ed Baby Showers:
Recently, there has been a rise in what’s known as “co-ed baby showers” that is nothing more than a forced-socialization charade.
Of course, there are men that opt for this type of celebration so much so, that sites like beau-coup.com have published detailed guides on how to throw co-ed baby showers for ladies and their eunuchs partners.
The fact is though, most men will have some discomfort in attending such a liberal – inspired event which is, and always will be an estrogen-fueled event that caters to the need of women much more than men.
The Emergence of The “Man Shower”
Clearly, the traditional baby shower is, for the most part, an exclusively women-only event that has men participate near to the end by greeting guests and to assist with the transportation of the gifts back home in what is a small bit-part in the whole occasion.
However, in North American and in other small parts of the world, as society becomes more modernized in their views on customs and traditions, many families are deciding to smash archaic tradition by becoming more modernized in their approach to the baby shower.
Just how modernized is this occasion becoming?
No one can nail down the precise timing of what’s known as a “Manshower” (otherwise known by Dad-chelor), however, many folks believe it has really started taking off shortly around 2010 or slightly sooner.
In many ways, the all-male version of the baby shower resembles its female equivalent: Manshowers involve a group of (normally) friends. There are food and drinks given, along with plenty of congratulations to keep the spirit alive and well.
Rather than Gentlemen sitting around in a circle comparing duckie-printed onesies, the typical Manshower involves more dynamic play such as “poker and pampers”, and “huggies and chuggies” that is more aligned with a testosterone-fueled event that is otherwise missing from the traditional Babyshower.
One especially boozy manshower featuring game challenges beer-in-a-baby-bottle drinking races using a ball made out of diapers, and (of course) a big screen TV and lots of video games.
Taking the opportunity to honor and celebrate a buddy during a major life change is an amazing idea, no matter the gender is,” says new dad Phil Johnson.
Also, whether or not they’ll agree to want a manshower, expecting dads across the world are realizing that their guy friends actually want to offer support before the baby is born.
What To Bring At A Man Shower?
Since this is a testosterone-fueled event, participants of the event typically will bring some aspirin, energy drinks, a protein shake, and vape kits for some buzzing fun.
As mentioned, these events will 99% of the time include some type of alcohol. Participants, however, are not required to bring their own drinks – but contributions are certainly welcome.
One word of caution: there will almost certainly be plenty of food, and if held in the summer months be prepared to stuff your face with BBQ related foods such as ribs, burgers, sausages, and other meat products!
Other Cool Events To Do That Makes It Unique:
There are distinct differences between the typical baby shower verses the ever-growing Manshower.
Typical games that evoke overall hilarity include games that put soon-to-be fathers in real-life situation competitions, such as “Who Can Make a Toddler Lunch Quicker? And “Who Can Do the Dishes the Fastest?”
Of course, these events are largely fueled by loads of alcohol and crowd-cheering motivation all in the name of fun.
Although deep-rooted in custom and tradition, a baby shower is a great way for women to celebrate the birth of a new life into the world.
Conversely, things are always changing in the world around us, and this is especially true in this information age where details about any subject used to take days or weeks to transmit can now be done within seconds.
It’s no wonder then that age-old customs such as the baby shower is also becoming more modernized to fit the needs of the populace as well.
Do dads attend baby showers?
Absolutely! This occasion that was once reserved for just the mom and her close female friends and family is not set up to include a separate branch off event called the Manshower where a dad and his friends can also have the same emotionally charged event as well.
Putting the difference of the sexes aside, what’s most important is the actual message being sent whereas both dad and mom can take part in celebrating the birth of a beautiful baby into a family that will love and cherish them. Isn’t that worth pursuing?
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