Single dads are a huge, growing phenomenon in not only western society but throughout the world. Even in many traditional cultures, the rise of single dads is a huge trend that shows no sign of slowing down.
And it’s because of this growing trend, I sat and researched 9 reasons why dating a single dad just makes sense. These Includes:
- They have their priorities straight
- They are more in tune with your emotions
- They understand the importance of multi-tasking
- They are much more mature
- They are way more patient
- They are more responsible
- They love children
- They tend to be older
- Many women prefer older men
They Have Their Priorities Straight:
Being a single dad is certainly no easy task, and with being a single dad comes great responsibility that isn’t for the faint of heart.
Let’s face it when you take it upon yourself whether by choice or by circumstances, you are essentially watching over one what society recognizes as of the most vulnerable and important things a person can be in charge of.
Where am I going with this?
Certainly, and with very few exceptions, having the great responsibility and privilege of raising a child on your own is almost always going to change a guy for the better.
I have met throughout my life countless men who, once given the responsibility of raising a little one of their own, give up their party ways in favor of a more wholesome and rewarding path of normality.
I’m not saying that being a single dad means you automatically become a dud, but what I am saying is that for the most part, single dads do value responsibility and priorities to a much higher level than your average, single guy who just wants to date and see where things go from there.
Trust me when I say that most single dads want and look for a relationship that will go somewhere, and not fizzle out over some superficial one-night stand.
They Are More In-tune with Their Emotions, And Ultimately Yours:
If there’s one thing being a single dad taught me is that children – whether toddlers, kids or infants – need a high-level of emotional support in their overall development if they are going to mature in a very healthy way.
Sure, there are some neglectful fathers out there. However, by and large, most single dads if they are decent and try hard to be the best parent they can be, have had to learn how to provide the right emotional support to their sons or daughters.
Ultimately, the need to be both mom and dad changes a man to the point where they take this emotionality and successfully apply this to other areas in their life.
What happens is that when you date a single dad the type of support they show to their children will almost certainly transfer into the relationship you have with that person as well.
Moreover, single dads also possess the right emotional quality that allows them to sense when something is not well. Rather than ignoring you, a single dad will usually be the first one to come over and ask if everything is alright.
The bottom line? If this happens, consider yourself lucky to have a man who wants to instinctively comfort you and make sure you are alright.
Single Dads Understand the Importance of Multitasking:
Nothing frustrates a woman more than having to deal with a guy who has no idea how to focus on more than one thing at a time.
Ladies, how many times have you felt like pulling out your hair because the guy you’re seeing can’t seem to unglue his eyes from the television set?
Us single dads recognize the importance of being able to focus on more than one thing at a time. In fact, the very survival of our children depends on us mastering the skill of multitasking.
Case in point: We are stuck in the kitchen doing dinner duty when out from nowhere a cry alerts us that there is a potential situation.
Rushing into the living room we quickly investigate the seriousness of the situation (usually a stubbed toe or something non-life threatening.
We still have to keep aware of what we were cooking in the kitchen. And if we have more than one child, chances are the other one is engaged in something entirely different like a bath or shower depending on her age.
You see, our life circumstances force us to adapt well-beyond the normal capacity of what the typical guy is programmed for.
Moreover, single dads have the capacity to really balance out a relationship with their many other tasks throughout the day. And that’s great news for you!
Single Dads Are Way More Mature:
Of course, there are always exceptions to the rule. However, I would say the majority of single dads are much more mature than folks who are single without children.
Most women mature at a much faster rate than men, meaning that when seeking a guy for a relationship, they tend to opt for an older man because it takes us, men, a bit longer to mature and settle down in life.
I know what many of you might be thinking:
I’ve always been way more mature than the women I have dated, or have been interested in”
Yes, you’re probably right…
However, speaking in generalist terms, most women are ready to settle down before the average guy.
And because I work full-time in the social service sector, I have had the opportunity to speak with countless women over the years who voiced their frustration about not wanting to meet a guy who was not into the club scene, or spending countless hours smoking pot and playing video games (not that any of that is bad in moderation of course).
That said if you’re a single gal who falls in this boat and basically tired of the continuous party scene, dating a single dad would probably be right up your alley.
Single Dads Are Much More Patient:
Before I became a dad, I had a tendency to overreact or otherwise fly off the handle when things didn’t go exactly as planned.
Having children and ultimately raising them to the best of your ability means that there are many times where you simply have to bite your tongue and take a deep breath so you don’t fly off the handle.
Whether your frustration stems from having a chaotic day dealing with a child screaming all day, or having to deal with a situation where they marked up the walls with permanent markers, being a single dad means that, for the most part, you will have to deal with these types of situations on a sometimes daily basis.
How does this translate into something positive in a relationship?
I know firsthand that the skills I have learned in dealing with a hyper and chaotic child have allowed me to translate this same type of patience and resiliency into my relationships with women.
Let’s face it, sometimes in a relationship, us guys will have to deal with silly annoying arguments that, at times, will make our blood boil.
Being a single dad who’s actively involved in a child’s life means that this same patience and resiliency single dads have learned over the years will appeal to women who are sick and tired of having to deal with the juvenile behavior men without children often exhibit.
Most Single Dads Love Children:
Let’s face it, chances are that if you are a single dad then I’m willing to bet that the vast majority of you love children to some capacity.
I have heard many women over the years claim that one of the main qualities they look for in a man is someone who absolutely loves children, and ultimately they want to catch a guy who has the quality where they are willing to settle and raise children as part of a larger picture in their relationship.
As an interesting side note: there is a growing trend surrounding younger men these days where potential partners are flat out refusing to not only want to engage in children, and flat out claim that they never want children as they flock to this unusual trend.
Indeed, if you’re a single dad then you could have the quality of maturity that only comes from a committed father that many single women look for in a man.
Single Dads Are Much More Responsible:
Clearly, it would be disingenuous to make the bold statement that all single dads are responsible, however, the fact that the vast majority of single dads are great parents is an honest reflection of the type of person they have become since raising a child on their own – and it doesn’t matter if they co-parent or if they are the primary caregiver, raising a child does end up changing you in responsible ways.
Between setting up doctor appointments, maintaining a bath schedule and cooking proper meals several times per day, these important tasks no doubt have the ability to make any single dad into a mature gentleman.
I remember when I was younger without children, most of my spending money went to going out and partying or buying clothes and electronics.
What I discovered is that after having children I found myself wanting to save money and getting more creative with the money I did have when it came to my spending habits.
Gone were the days where I would spend hundreds of dollars on things I really didn’t need…
The new me was now busy concentrating on adding digits to my bank account, taking my daughter to the zoo, and saving points on my Mastercard.
The characteristic of maturity and responsibility is highly sought out by most women who look for a man for a serious relationship that will ultimately lead to marriage.
The bottom line? If you’re a single dad who possesses this characteristic, then you will have a huge advantage over most single guys without children.
Single Dads Tend To Be Older:
This last point may or may not be something you look for in a serious relationship or any relationship for that matter.
That said, there are plenty of women that I had spoken with throughout my research that indicates that there is a huge segment of them that prefer to date older men.
The reason why women enjoy older guys would be another post in of itself, but according to many women, they love that idea of an older, mature man guiding them and showing them worldly things.
And let’s face it, women do seek men who are financially stable, so if you’re a single woman looking for an older guy who has their finances intact, then I’m willing to bet that your odds will be greatly improved if you keep an open mind when it comes to dating a single dad.
Hopefully, you enjoyed the 9 reasons why dating a single dad just makes sense. If you would like to leave a comment and share your reasons why dating a single dad just makes sense, feel free to leave your list below.