In continuation of my last post, I felt it important to talk about and discuss 12 reasons why you should marry your girlfriend.
Of course, depending on who you talk to there are perhaps hundreds of reasons folks can offer upon what they consider reasons why they would go on one knee and propose to their girlfriends.
After all, marriage is a huge commitment so you want to make sure the one you decide to walk down the aisle will ultimately be the love of your life.
Here are 12 signs you can’t ignore:
- You have a great sex life
- You both share the same vision
- Open communication
- She’s your best friend
- You trust her
- Financial habits
- Fighting is kept to a minimal
- You share intimate secrets together
- You won’t kill one another under quarantine
- She encourages you to do better
- She’s not possessive
- You’re physically attracted to her
Since I have always been curious about this particular topic (probably because I’m married with 2 kids), I decided to do some more research into this area and explain in detail what each of these points means for you.
1. You Have A Great Sex Life:
Of course, with every healthy relationship comes a sex life you can be proud of; in time this part of the relationship should improve and become stronger over time.
Some couples are compatible with a lower sex drive in time and that’s fine, however, if your sex life is something that will remain strong over the course of your life then finding a wife who shares this as well would be important.
The bottom line is that you want to carefully choose someone who’s sex drive will match yours, if not then there will be a fairly good chance you will end up in a miserable marriage or end up in divorce.
2. You Share The Same Vision As Her:
When 2 people come together in marriage it’s absolutely essential that both of you share the same vision as one another.
Things like careers, entertainment, friends, traveling, and investments become important as a marriage grows and matures over time.
If you’re married to a compulsive gambler and you are a tight saver who hates the idea of risking money, then clearly this would be a mismatch.
Although an extreme example, the idea that you both need to share the same vision and values as one another is extremely important if you don’t want to constantly argue about things like money.
3. Open Communication:
It doesn’t matter who you talk to, the vast majority of experts feel that open communication is one of the key components to a healthy relationship.
Put aside what the experts say for a moment. Even the average guy not well-versed in the educational aspect of psychology and relationships will instinctively agree that talking is much more beneficial than keeping things bottled up.
To put bluntly, if you don’t have healthy communication in your relationship and all you do is argue and yell then you really need to either look for someone more compatible, or you need to work on your communicational skills.
In fact, without open communication, you will inevitably fight about things like money, kids, education, career to name a few.
4. She’s Your Best Friend:
I always felt that the person I will ultimately marry should also be my best friend. I can’t help thinking that during this Covo-19 pandemic the number of couples that are also divorcing.
I’m sure many of them don’t communicate appropriately – that should go without saying – but also I feel that many of these couples don’t consider each one to be their best friend.
We all live busy lives, so it makes sense that many of these same folks who are struggling to maintain their marriage never really took the time to get to know one another on a friendship level.
Living in a hyper-busy society does have some advantages, however, in the case of marriage you really want to do your due diligence and get to know the person first before walking down that aisle.
5. You Trust Her:
Trust, as they say, is the cornerstone in any successful relationship, and if the relationship is going to lead to marriage then you better believe that the person you plan to walk down the aisle with needs to be trustworthy.
Trust allows you to feel protected, and your partner should have our back while being completely loyal through the good times and bad.
Trust also allows you to display feelings sincerely and without inhibition because they should be supportive and without fear that they will judge, or ridicule us.
Trust goes hand in hand with open communication; it’s only after you fully trust someone that you are able to fully communicate with that person on a much deeper level.
In fact, the marriages that last the longest have the deepest level of trust entwined within. Coincidence?
6. Financial Habits:
For some odd reason, this is one area where potential couples feel is not that important.
Subsequently, when a couple finally ties the knot and decides to get married then all of the sudden finance become a major issue and they find themselves scrambling to find some common ground with one another.
Spending habits become a big deal especially when this same couple, for the first time, discuss credit scores, mortgages, car payments, savings, and investments.
Yes, love will take you fsr, but if you want your relationship to extend well-beyond then do yourself a favor and find someone who doesn’t deviate too much from you.
And if you’re one of those folks who has terrible money-management skills, do yourself a favor and find someone who is the opposite of you and either learns from them or give them control over your savings.
7. Fighting Is Kept To A minimal:
I mentioned earlier how communication is key in any lasting relationship, and continuing with the spirit of it is the ability to keep fighting down to a minimum.
Naturally, and relationship – marriage or otherwise – will have some element of fighting; it’s unavoidable.
However, where things get ugly is when you find yourself fighting way more than you get along.
Do you fight at home?
At the grocery store?
Do your friends and family raise their concerns to you about your constant arguing?
If you answered yes to 2 or more of these questions on a regular basis then you most likely have an issue that needs to get addressed before you tie the knot.
8. You Share Intimate Secrets Together:
One of the most beautiful things about any relationship where trust is not an issue is mutual satisfaction where both partners can share intimate secrets together.
Whether it’s sharing sexual fetishes, childhood secrets, or a career change picking the right partner to marry means that at some point you will share secrets with one another.
It’s really a sad thing when I hear about couples that are too embarrassed to discuss intimate secrets with one another.
Personally, I can’t imagine what life would be like shackled to someone where I can’t be myself or express who I am.
Perhaps this is one of the reasons why half of all marriages end up in divorce after 5 years.
9. You Won’t kill One Another Under Quarantine:
With the recent global pandemic regarding Covid-19 or the Wuhan virus whatever you feel more comfortable saying saw a major spike in breakups and divorce.
All of a sudden everyone is stuck at home while most entertainment establishments like movie theatres, parks, and restaurants remained shut down until a safe solution is proposed.
I bet many of these same folks are wondering what in the world they ever saw in one another as couples continue to struggle and re-acquaint themselves with their partners.
That’s why I always suggest you become friends first before asking for her hand in marriage.
10. She Encourages You To Do Better:
One of the things I always admired in any relationship is when you have to cooperative, working partners coming together for the greater good of the relationship.
When both partners support and encourage one another something magical occurs:
Not only does the relationship grow and prosper, but the relationship also evolves into a partnership where the level of love for one another takes on a much deeper meaning.
The end result is a relationship that’s built to last and stand the test of time. And given the climate of most relationships out there, encouragement is certainly a breath of fresh air.
11. She’s Not Possessive:
I always found it irritating and concerning when there are stories circulating around about some poor guy who feels trapped in a relationship with a possessive, insecure woman.
This same guy may make plans with his friends to watch a movie or go to a restaurant, and the entire time his cell phone blows up like something nuclear every hour on the hour asking when he’s going to come home, or worse, calling to start a fight.
Usually, it always ends with some ultimatum that he come home immediately or she’s severing the relationship.
If you’ve never been in a relationship like this count yourself lucky and avoid these toxic women like the plague.
12. You’re Physically Attracted To Her:
Last on the list of the importance of being physically attracted to her.
I don’t care if I receive a chorus of messages calling me superficial for saying so, but physical attraction is just as important an being mentally attracted to your partner.
Now let me set the record straight, I’m not saying every guy is the same with respect to the importance they place on physical attraction.
For some guys, it may be 4th down the list, while for other guys it could be number one or two.
That said, what I do know is for the vast majority of men it’s certainly in the top 4 positions of importance.
Deep down whether men will admit it or not they want a wife who is the envy of their friends.
They want a wife that will turn them on every time they look at her, and they certainly want a wife who takes care of themselves by going out of her way to look good for you.
Marriage is certainly a huge step that any guy undertakes. Not only will this mean sacrificing the of a single guy and all the freedom associated with it, but it also means that you vow to stay with one another till death do you part.
Also, married life is full of wondrous discovery where you both have the opportunity to come together as one for the purpose of leaning on one another in good times and the bad.
Unfortunately, many couples rush to the alter without some sort of rhyme or reason then scratch their heads in disbelief wondering what the heck went wrong.
It’s because of this level of unpreparedness I decide to publish 12 reasons why you should marry your girlfriend, as a guide to help folks caught up in the position from being unsuspecting to fully armed with facts and the truth that’s needed to ensure you ultimately marry the woman of your dreams.
Remember, most of you are better than you give yourself credit for, Never settle for anything less!