Let’s face it, being single these days is difficult. Between all the dating profiles, long-hours at work, and the overall pressure that comes with modern-day living, most women just give up (or at least feel the need to)
Ladies, as a single dad myself who struggled in the whole dating scene, I decided to do some research into finding out how you can tell a single dad is serious about you.
Below is a compiled list of some obvious – and not so obvious – guaranteed signs a single dad is serious about you. I will also go in great detail on what exactly the signs you should look for, and what you can expect if you do attract a single dad.
- He takes the time to reach out to you.
- He asks for the opportunity to hang out while the actual activity is less important.
- He responds to you when you call or text in a positive way
- He listens to you in an intense manner
- He’s also a single parent, so he understands parenting is a 24/7 thing
- He routinely goes out of his way to say nice things in a way that makes you feel loved.
- He can express joy simply at being in your presence and he’s not afraid to hold back
- He can give you a non-sexual massage or hug without expecting anything else in return.
- He wants to make your relationship exclusive
- He wants to introduce you to his children
He Takes The Time To Reach Out To You:
This particular sign is huge because, as most of us probably know, being a single dad is wrought with commitment and huge responsibilities.
Between taking the kids on weekends -or fulltime in some cases – being a single dad is all about time management, negotiation, and creativity all in one. In fact, being a single dad is definitely a lifestyle.
That’s why, when you meet a single dad and he invites you into his life by reaching out and planning some time where you can spend together, it goes a long way in demonstrating that he really values you as someone special.
I know from personal experience when I was a single dad and if I were serious about someone this would be one of the main signs I would offer up.
He Asks for The Opportunity to Hang Out (While the Actual Activity Is Less Important):
It’s pretty evident to most people that if a guy is not interested in you as much as he probably should, then the date is important while you may be a secondary factor.
Often, a guy may ask you out on a date simply because he may be bored or he just wants the company to go out and do something.
That said when a guy asks you out on a date to spend time with you, and he’s way less interested in the activity itself, you can rest assured that his interest factor is most likely 100%.
He Responds To You When You Call Or Text In A Positive Manner:
Let’s face it, there’s a lot going on in a person’s life on any given day that causes folks to snap or otherwise become belligerent; obviously, we are all human so to always e on our best behavior is not always possible.
However, if you notice a pattern of politeness and otherwise courtesy behavior despite the stressors that go on in his life, I can assure you that he values you to the point where he is trying to be mindful of your feelings.
Again, I want to highlight that no one is perfect by any stretch, however, pattern means everything so please take that into account.
He Listens to You In An Intense Manner:
There’s a lot to be said about simply listening for the sake of listening, and active listening where the guy you like listens intently to what you say and responds accordingly is like night and day compared to simply listening while his mind is racing elsewhere.
Also, he lets you know later how he was picking up details of what you said, what you asked for, or what you expressed as a need or boundary.
If he’s not listening in an active manner, he might as well be telling you that he’s really not that interested in you. And if that’s the case – and you should always trust your gut instinct – I would advise you to keep this in mind before going forward with this particular person otherwise you may just be wasting your precious time.
If You’re A Single Parent, He Also Realizes That Parenting Is A 24/7 Thing:
If you are a single mom, he understands – like him -you are a parent first and foremost. So that should be a no-brainer.
That said, however, you would be surprised to know that there are many potential men out there that do not share this understanding of what a parent is like.
When a single dad is really interested in you – and I mean REALLY into you – he will show an empathetic approach by understanding the struggles that he goes through as a single parent himself.
And this goes more to the point: if he’s really interested in you, he will most definitely put yourself in his shoes and act accordingly.
He Routinely Goes Out of His Way to Say Nice Things in A Way That Makes You Feel Loved:
When you value someone and truly love them, you will routinely go out of your way to say nice things about them because it makes them feel loved and valued.
I understand that this is a generalization but with single dads, this applies much more than the typical single guy?
Why? single dads have no time to waste on useless flattery, they are simply way too busy to play the games.
In other words, when a single dad has his sights set on you and he really wants to take the time to get to know you and in its entirety, chances are he will go out of his way to say nice things in a way that makes you feel loved.
He can express joy simply at being in your presence, and he’s not afraid to hold back:
Unlike many guys who don’t have the responsibility of raising children of their own, they are not afraid to hold back their feelings and emotions when the situation arises.
Single dads know and understand that raising children means they have to be really in-tune with the emotions of their young ones, so logically when these single dads are interested in you they are unafraid to transmit these same emotions to you which is clearly what you would expect from someone who is truly into you.
After all, in order to have a happy relationship that will keep evolving, it’s paramount that you chose a guy who will not hold back his joy.
He can give you a non-sexual massage or hug without expecting anything else in return:
One of the most important factors that determine how healthy and deep a relationship can go is if the guy you’re interested in loves you enough to enjoy spending time with you, even though sex may not be involved that particular day.
Often times, a guy might only act sweet toward you because they know that they can receive some love at the end of the day (or night).
Not so with sincere, single dads…
When a single dad’s truly interested in you, he will go out of his way to ensure that the time you both spend together is all about connectedness and meaningful connections.
He Wants To Make Your Relationship Exclusive:
One of the highlights of dating a single dad is that most of the time they are looking for an exclusive relationship, and not a partnership that is based on shallow things like sex and superficial conversations that seem Ok when you are young and without priorities.
Let’s face it, most single dads have had their priorities straight once they because fathers so it only makes sense that an exclusive relationship is a natural extension of these same priorities (not sleeping around, bringing home unfamiliar women to the house, a reckless lifestyle)
Rather, serious single dads are looking for a woman to complement their already established family, so if he wants you to be exclusively yours, consider yourself lucky indeed.
He Wants To Introduce You To His Children:
I saved the best for last because let’s be clear: when a single dad wants to introduce you to his children it’s the ultimate sign that he is so into you.
Trust me, as a single dad, I can assure you that he will not bring you home to meet his children if he were not at all serious about you.
The last thing he wants to do is bring home some women to meet his children if they are not at all serious. He wants his kids to feel comfortable in the long run, so if you are privileged to meet his kids then know that this is usually the start of something that has the potential to be a long-term relationship.
As you can see, there are several guaranteed signs you can tell a single dad is serious about you. And although I have researched the topic thoroughly, I’m sure there are many other ways you can tell that did not make the list.
Are you getting the vibes from a single dad that they might be interested in you?
If so, take a moment and leave some other signs in the comment section below!